Registered Clinical Counsellor
Claire De Boer
Adults · Couples
I’m Claire De Boer, a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) and the Clinical Director of Safe Haven Counselling in South Surrey. I am a member of the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors (BCACC) and have spent over a decade helping individuals and couples move beyond surface-level coping and toward deep, lasting change.
You’ve spent years being the “capable one”—the person everyone else relies on. But internally, you might feel a growing disconnect, a sense of being overwhelmed by the very roles you’ve worked so hard to inhabit. Whether you are navigating a marriage that feels distant or a midlife transition that has left you questioning your identity, the weight of carrying it all alone is becoming too much.
I understand that your struggles aren’t personal failures; they are intelligent adaptations that once served a purpose. My role is to help you gently understand and reshape those patterns so you can finally come home to yourself.
Therapeutic Modalities
My Approach to Therapy
My approach integrates evidence-based modalities to ensure your nervous system feels secure as we do the deeper work.
EFT
Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT)
To help couples move out of conflict and into secure emotional connection.
IFS
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
To explore the different “parts” of you and heal the wounds they carry.
EMDR
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
To process relational trauma and “stuck” memories.
Mindfulness
Mindfulness-Based Practices
To help you stay present and grounded in your body.
CBT
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
Supporting you to see the things you believe about yourself and others in a new way.
Journaling
Journal Therapy
A profound and often overlooked way to support your healing.
“I’m really thankful for Dr. Claire De Boer and how understanding she is during our sessions. She’s super careful not to push her own ideas, but instead, she asks the right questions to help you figure things out. Everything’s been great so far, and I’m excited for our next sessions.”
Client of Claire de boer
Specializations
Who I Work With
I specialize in supporting those navigating complex relational and identity challenges.
Relational and Attachment Trauma
Healing the wounds left by early childhood experiences or betrayal.
Identity & Self-Worth
For those who feel invisible or disconnected from their true needs.
Divorce Recovery
Supporting individuals to navigate the complex layers of grief, trauma, and loneliness that accompany the breakdown of a long-term love relationship.
Mood Disorders
Exploring your Anxiety, depression and how they have shaped your life
SUPPORT IS HERE
Ready to start moving toward meaningful change?
Book a free 15-minute consultation with Claire to see if working together feels like the right fit.
Our counselling services are available to residents of British Columbia.