
Resources & Insights
Counselling Resources & Blog
Insights, tools, and support from the registered clinical counsellors at
Safe Haven Counselling in Surrey, BC
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Why Do I Struggle to Let Go of Past Relationships?
Why do we still look up our exes on social media, even years later, curious about who they’re with and what they’re doing?
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Why Self-Love is a Necessary Part of Loving Others
Self-love is often misunderstood. It’s commonly associated with confidence, positivity, or self-esteem—but at its core, self-love is about relationship.
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Talking It Out: 7 Ways to Better Communicate with Your Partner
One of the most common reasons couples seek counselling is not because they don’t love each other — but because they no longer feel heard, understood, or emotionally connected.
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Parentified Child: The Hidden Burden of Growing Up Too Soon
Do you find yourself taking care of everyone else’s feelings—your partner’s, your friends’, even your boss’s—while quietly pushing your own needs aside?
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How to Stop Feeling “Too Much” for Other People
If you’ve ever felt the tension between wanting to be seen and fearing rejection, this isn’t a personality flaw. It’s a wound — and it’s one that deserves care.
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How to Recognize Avoidant Attachment Early in Dating: Signs to Notice Before You Get Hooked
Dating often begins with hope, excitement, and the thrill of possibility. When someone shows up attentive, emotionally open, and deeply present, it’s easy to exhale and settle into the feeling of connection.
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Why Friendships Matter (And How to Maintain Yours)
One thing I have learned across the years as I have rolled in and out of seasons of community is the value of friendships.
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Why Do I Always Think the Worst? How to Calm Catastrophic Thoughts
Your mind spins out of control, imagining worst-case scenarios until you ask yourself, “why do I always think the worst?”
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Healing Your Anxious Attachment Style: 10 Tools for Growth
Many people experience periods of heightened emotional sensitivity — here’s what’s behind it and how to respond with more compassion.
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10 Ways To Ease Depression With Only Your Pen
If you would like to try journaling to see if it helps, I suggest giving yourself at least 20 minutes a day to sit and write.
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Why Facing Your Biggest Fear Will Be Your Greatest Breakthrough
If setting emotional boundaries feels confusing, exhausting, or difficult to maintain, counselling can help you build self-trust and healthier relationships at your own pace, in a supportive and grounded environment.
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Understanding Avoidant Attachment: Breaking Down Emotional Walls
In this post, we’re exploring the key traits and causes of avoidant attachment, how it shows up in relationships, and what you can do to start breaking down those emotional walls.
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What Is My Attachment Style? A Beginner’s Guide to Understanding Yourself
Ever wonder why some relationships feel secure and others leave you anxious, avoidant, or confused — even with people you care about?
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Emotional Boundaries: What They are and How to Create Them
When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. Learn what emotional boundaries really are and how to build them.
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Attachment in Relationships: How EFT Helps Couples Reconnect and Heal
When couples seek counselling, it’s rarely just about the arguments. It’s about the longing underneath — to feel seen, understood, respected, or close again.
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Attachment Styles: What Everyone Needs to Know
Attachment theory is a psychological understanding of human behaviour in relationship. Many psychotherapists will talk about it, or at least consider it, when working with clients.
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Is this a Midlife Crisis or Depression?
Are you in your 40s or 50s and feeling empty and low for no apparent reason? If so, you may be in the throes of a midlife crisis.
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How to Forgive Your Parents and Heal Your Attachment Wounds
If you’re in therapy and starting to explore attachment wounds or early childhood traumas, it’s normal to experience a surge of unexpected emotions—especially towards your parents or primary caregivers.
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Why Do I Cry So Easily? Understanding Emotional Sensitivity
Many people experience periods of heightened emotional sensitivity — here’s what’s behind it and how to respond with more compassion.
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Why Do I Feel So Anxious at Night? Understanding Night-Time Anxiety
All day, you kept it together — showing up, handling the to-do list, smiling when needed. But now it’s quiet, the lights are low, and your thoughts are anything but calm.
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Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS): The Therapy Everyone is Talking About
Internal Family Systems Therapy is based on the idea that the mind is naturally made up of different inner parts.
